We need to talk about The Bachelor


I’ve never been a Bachie fan. The hype doesn’t phase me, the ‘love stories’ don’t bring out my inner soppy girl and yes, while I admit the bachelors are always very, very easy on the eye, even that isn’t enough for this show to grab my attention.

In the past, I have rolled my eyes at the people who invest their lives into this show, as well as the contestants. But after watching literally 10 minutes of last week’s premiere episode, I can’t ignore this poor excuse for reality television anymore.

For a show that is far too removed from real life to be deemed ‘reality’, it sure has its influence over the nation, with 1.234 million people tuning in to the last episode of 2016.

When I asked friends and family why they watch this turd of a program, most of them recognised that it was pure rubbish, but they couldn’t resist the dresses, the drama and the d… ah hem.. the very attractive Bachelor.

If you’re not prepared to listen to a huge (but justified) whinge about everything wrong with The Bachelor, then this is where we say goodbye. If you are, then welcome my dear; let’s get into it.

For starters, what kind of lessons is this show teaching young, impressionable women? That it’s ok to flaunt your stuff in competition with 22 other women like a kinder kid trying to show their mum what they learnt at Karate? While the whole nation watches on and, let’s be honest, laughs at your efforts in gaining his sole attention?


I cant help but assume that if this was a real life situation, these women would have a massive problem if their love interest was also interested, going on dates with, kissing, confessing feelings and sharing intimate moments with 22 other women. So why are these women settling for this kind of treatment?

This show literally encourages the women to attack other women. There is no question that the competitive nature of the show brings out the very worst in them. How can they think that these qualities are attractive to a man anyway? In the 10 minutes I saw last night, one girl was insulted over her hair, another her smile, and one girl was even insulted because of her confidence.

How do these women not realise that they are playing into the hands of producers and network executives wanting to make a mockery of women?

They portray all the very stereotypes that in this day and age, many women have tried so hard to abolish.

Not only are the women being competitive with each other, it also has viewers critiquing their every move. Before the show even began, there were articles circulating on who the big players will be, solely based on their looks. The articles after the premier show included “The best, worst and weirdest Bachelor outfits” and countless satirical reviews that quite literally insulted the contestants’ attempts at a first impression with Matty, this year’s Bachelor.

Yes, there is also the Bachelorette where the roles are reversed, and this is just as gross – but how many articles have you seen unveiling the naked photos of the men? How many polls are run judging their suits? Erm, not so many.  

Previous contestants have revealed that the women are given alcohol a lot, and frequently, and early in the morning, in order to spark arguments and ‘heat up’ the dinner parties. Although these women drink it at their own leisure, supplying the large amounts of booze is obviously a recipe for disaster, and I still cannot comprehend how these women can think that they are being taken seriously, and not exploited by producers wishing to squeeze out juicy info to boost ratings.

And then I remember that, for lots of the women involved, it’s not about love at all. No, it’s about their launch into D list fame. Modelling careers, personality deals, TV interviews, you name it. Past contestants such as Keira Maguire, have a whopping 56,000 followers and scored a slot on ‘I’m a celebrity get me out of here’ in 2016, and she’s not the only one.

The bachelor teaches women that looks are vital, love is a competition, The Bachelor is a prize to be won, and finding a man is the key to a happy, complete life. This show validates the ideas that women are bitchy, we must tear each other down in order to win and oh, you need a man to complete you.

Instead of supporting this show, here’s a list of alternatives that capture the uplifting of women.



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